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Relationship mistakes every girl should avoid. *game changer*

Having that warm romantic and passionate attachment with someone special is an amazing feeling that I bet every girl secretly admires and wants to have, and of course, being in a relationship with someone  you love is truly incredible and amazing not because you have the most handsome guy to flaunt around your world (like your friends family and social media) but having that one special person you can completely be yourself around and depend on both during the good and bad times *for me, that's a relationship*

Relationship is not a fairytale or storybook, *so don't believe everything you watch on television or read*, it faces many challenges and in it, you get to learn new things about yourself, your partner and basically about life, and I guess we all know making a relationship last is not all that easy, especially for married folks because being in a relationship with someone doesn't always mean you get to see eye to eye or never have an argument it means despite the bad days you still can't see yourself without that person.

There are certain behavioral patterns *I called them mistakes* that we do over and over again that makes it impossible to achieve a beautiful and happy relationship and as part of the female gender, I know there are certain mistakes that we make at one point or another in our relationship that can make it feel a bit tensed, but if you truly want a healthy and happy relationship you will have to put in the work and stop making them. *P.S for a relationship to actually work both parties have to put in the work*.

Comparing your relationship with others.
Think about this for minute guys, there are millions no billions of people in this world with different personalities and assumptions of life, so do you actually think every relationship should be the same or even perfect? *I don't think so*, in fact, I think when we compare your relationship with others we are basically setting your own relationship up for failure. You need to understand that every couple and relationship are actually different and vary greatly so instead of focusing on how different your relationship is set your mind to see how amazingly unique your relationship is and enjoy every moment of it.

complaining about your relationship with someone else.
I know to tell that one friend or a family member about how things are going in your relationship might feel good and liberating at first but do you know that, that act can actually damage and even kill your relationship. The problem with sharing your relationship details with others is that it breaks the trust in your relationship and makes you focus only on the negative part of your relationship. So if at all you have any issues in your relationship it's best to settle it out and fix it with your partner.

Neglecting your romantic side.
It's so easy to get lost and stressed out in your day to day busy lives but if you don't take the time to nurture the romances in your relationship be prepared to watch it fade.  We ladies feel it's the men's job to always plan the romantic date and simply shower us with the most expensive gift and if they don't, then the relationship 
becomes boring, but that's just not true. I personally feel to keep the relationship flame burning it requires both parties, so go ahead and make Romantic date night and alone time a priority in your relationship because romance is what keeps the relationship flames burning.

Wanting a perfect partner. 
Basically, everyone has this perfect image of how they want their partners to look like, speak, and even dress but wanting or even expecting your partner to be perfect and getting mad when they are not can only make them feel less loved and rejected. As I said earlier, everyone is amazingly unique so instead of focusing on that supposed flaws and fantasizing on a perfect partner, appreciate and love them for everything they are because honestly guys, love is not perfect.

Being co-dependent.
Most girls see their partner as their world, they rely solely on them for everything, wish they can spend every waking moment with them, and depend on them to make you happy, but guys, that will only make them feel shocked and even stressed out and believe me men don't like to feel that way. Men adore the fact you are in their lives but love you to have your own life. So for me, I think the healthiest relationship is between those who say "I need you in my life but I also need you to have your own life" So take some time to do what you love, figure out your likes and dislikes are, have hobbies, spend time with your own friends and enjoy every moment of it.

Not considering your partner's feelings.
The most common mistake people make in their relationship is not giving their partner that safe space for them to express how they truly feel. We sometimes think men don't have emotions, believe me, that's not true. Men are even more emotional than us. Men try their best to hide it in their muscular personality, but they secretly want to have someone in their life they can express that side with, so ladies we should understand that fact,  respect their different perspective and allow them to express their feelings in a space where they won't feel judged or criticized.

Jealousy.
Jealousy is a completely natural human feeling but we need to be very careful with how the way you handle it. 
When you noticed you are always getting jealous in your relationship, you don't need to feel bad,  all you need to do is to honestly talk about it because unchecked jealousy can become destructive in any relationship.

The bottom line is in order to keep a relationship you will have to communicate about everything both the good and bad, build trust, make time for each other, appreciate the flaws, appreciate each other become best friends, and love each other unconditional.

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